When love and sex life collide with hygiene

Question: Dr. Simó, I have a problem and I'd like your opinion . My wife and I leave for work at 6:50 a.m. She works in an air-conditioned office , but she's constantly on the move and uses the metro and cable cars to get home .

We get home after 7 p.m., and at 9 p.m., after the kids are asleep, my wife wants to make love.

The thing is, at that hour, she hasn't washed, and I don't really like being intimate like that. She complains that I don't like eating her like that.

I asked him if he finds this relationship more exciting , and he said no. I want you to tell me if I'm wrong or what I can do to improve this situation.

What may seem like just a hygiene issue is much more than that, because seeing how our partner doesn't care what we think or how we feel about body odor tells us about very little empathy and that they are not measuring the impact that this has on the relationship .

There's a discrepancy here: your partner thinks you should be performing oral sex like this (for hours without washing), and for you, this is inconceivable.

Therefore, you should ask him why he doesn't like to clean himself before asking to be intimate and explain that it is not exciting for you to do it if it doesn't take hygiene into account.

Tell her you've already asked her and she admits she doesn't necessarily get turned on by this, so you'd rather both take a bath first.

He may be bothered by the limits you set, but that's the only way to keep your sex life from being tarnished.

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