Mothers in proverbs

The saying, “A boy learns from his father how to set the table, a girl learns from her mother how to mow ” is related to family education . There is another family truth in the saying, “A mother wanders, a daughter wanders, who puts together this dowry?” Another similar one is as follows: “A mother wanders, a daughter wanders; a white hare tidies up the house.” The woman is the pillar of a house. After a while, her daughter becomes her assistant. Women keep the house in order. The word hare in the proverb means a type of hunting dog. If the mother and daughter wander around the streets all day, the dogs will also come in and turn the house upside down.

Mother and daughter, halva and koz . Koz means walnut. Walnut adds flavor to the taste of halva and completes each other. The basis of beauty is suitability. The closest assistant of the mother is the daughter. Just as the walnut is suitable for halva, they complete each other and add value to each other. That is why there is a tradition in our society to evaluate the daughter by looking at the mother and the mother by looking at the daughter.

The mother establishes a throne for her daughter, but the daughter gets her fortune from her husband. Every mother and father wants their children to grow up in good conditions, to have a bright, happy and wealthy future, and they can create many opportunities. Some of these last until the girl gets married. After she finds her own home, her husband must be good and understanding in order for her to be happy and peaceful. No matter how comfortable the girl is in her father's house, she should find real comfort and happiness in her husband's house.

To the raven, its young appear like a falcon. Everyone's child is more precious to him. He has given his life and blood to him. Every parent sees his own child as more beautiful, more intelligent, more superior and more valuable than the children of others. Every person regards his own work as more beautiful, more perfect and more superior than the work of others.

We can list many proverbs such as, “An orphan child cuts his own umbilical cord.”, “The nature that enters with milk comes out with life.”, “It is the female bird that builds the nest.”

Following the proverb examples, I would like to give examples from idioms , one of the sister elements of folklore literature:

The girl is engaged, the bride is alive with two lives, the mother-in-law is in this state

Sometimes this saying is used when those who are supposed to do a joint job run away with an excuse and the work is left on the shoulders of one person. They say that the daughter of the house is engaged and she is not able to focus on work. The daughter-in-law of the house is pregnant and cannot work. All of them are left with the old mother. One day, the poor woman said this in grief: “The daughter is engaged, the bride is alive, the mother-in-law is in this condition.”

Mother's heart, side of the heart : It is said to express that mothers make every sacrifice for their children and that they know their pain.

“What do mothers give birth to :” . “ To be a mother”, “The milk I sucked from my mother came out of my nose”, “May it be halal like my mother’s white milk :”, “Its mother also came from hand ”, “ Its mother is a radish, its father is a turnip”, “To make one’s mother cry :” , “ Its mother’s eye”, “It stands with its mother’s cuteness ”, “ It sold its mother’s thread at the market ”, “ Its mother’s young lamb ”, “ To ask for one’s mother’s marriage .

Separation and tears are identical. Mother, father, sibling, sister, lover, friend. But in any case, the separation of mothers from their children. Before Kerem sets off for Aslı, he says goodbye to his mother and tells her his last wish:

“My dear mother, this wish is for you.

What the sky has done is a punishment for me

Maybe my Aslı Kerem, you are on the right path,

Cry mother, it is the day of separation. …”

As he cannot reunite with his Origin at every point he reaches, his pain grows. But the pain of exile also multiplies Kerem's pain. On a mountaintop , while his horses breathe a little in the red wind and the white rain, a sadness settles inside Kerem. Tears flow from his eyes like strings. He takes the saz in his hand and sings, let's see what the mountains and rocks listen to:

" Those high mountains opposite

I wonder if these are our mountains?

My strange white-haired mother,

Should he cry while saying "son"?

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